Monday, May 19, 2008

TEMPTATIONS {in Parenting}

"Now no chastening seems to be joyful for the present, but painful;
nevertheless, afterward it yields the peaceable fruit of
righteousness to those who have been trained by it."

~ Hebrews 12:11

When my two oldest daughters were younger, I had this verse taped up in the room where I would bring them for correction. It was not for them. It was for me.

I would get tired of being consistent. Tired of disciplining. I would want to "look the other way" and let things go. But when I considered the various promises of God~ including the fruit of righteousness to those who have been trained~ God's Word would give me the fortitude to press on.

In response to my previous post, "We're working on that..." I got the sense that several moms of young children were feeling the pressure of parenting in front of others or in desiring to have "arrived" in the area of child training.

Let me encourage you. I have never met a diligent, Christian mom who didn't feel the same way in this season.

We all want to have "arrived" or to give up! This is your hardest season. I should say, if we are consistent now this should be our hardest season. As our children are trained, life really does get easier. If things have gone correctly~ we have been consistent in correction and developed heart strings with our children~ our discipline should lessen to the point that you may not discipline for years!


I think as parents we are tempted to two things that are bad news for us and our young charges:

1) To "credit card" parent~ to always put off training, correcting, discipline or developing relationship for a later time. To neglect these areas because we don't feel like it, we don't have time etc. As I write this, I am feeling convicted about failing in this area myself as of late.


2) To parent in front of others. This never turns out well. I would like to encourage you that you are parenting for an audience of One. Do not parent for or in front of anyone else. You will loose ground. To either excuse yourself or say, "We're working on that" is fine.

As I mentioned, I struggle with this too. I have to remind myself that I really don't want to credit card parent, because I don't want to pay when they are older. I want to enjoy the blessing that God intended.

"And let us not be weary in well doing:
for in due season we shall reap,
if we faint not"

~Galatians 6:9


  1. Oh, this was such the encouragement I needed this evening. Thank you.

  2. Very encouraging sis! I have been working on training with ALL of my babes in the last couple of weeks, but especially my sweet littlest one.

    Thanks for your transparency on the last post. Very sweet!

    Love ~ Lizzie

  3. Thank you once again! "Credit Card" parenting has definitely been a weak point for me lately... May God continue to bless you as you continue to bless so many of us.

    Grace go with you!

  4. Thank you so much ladies. Whenever I post about parenting it is with fear and trembling and a lot of prayer. Grateful God is using it to bless you. : ) Rebecca

  5. This post is very timely for me. I have had Galatians 6:9 running through my head for the last week or so. I feel like I am growing weary in doing good. It's a lot of work taking care of and training 3 little ones! Thank you for your reminder that "credit card parenting" isn't worth it, even though it may seem easier at the moment.
    I love the phrases that you come up with. The phrase "Inspect what you expect" was one that came to mind many times yesterday, as the kids were helping around the house.
    Thank you again for sharing your wisdom with us moms!