I recently had the opportunity to visit with a wise friend. We talked through several topics over coffee in her living room and eventually landed on motherhood.
I shared that I was in the process of re-examining God's creativity in making each child with unique personalities and likes. And that I have learned that rather than seeking to mold my children into my image, I desire to find who God created them to be.
I have accepted that I said.
My sweet friend encouraged me that it is so important to do more than accept God's created differences, but relish in His handiwork!
How very right she is. And what a seemingly subtle, but profound difference that has made in my thinking.
She shared that she loves Hydragea flowers- they are her absolute favorite. And because of this fact, she very much wanted Hydrageas in her front yard. She soon learned that the sunny real estate in her front yard was simply not a good place for these shade and water loving beauties.
She learned to appreciate that God made different flowers for different locations. They are all beautiful and she does not simply embrace the Hydragea. It would and struggle and die if she forced it to live in the sun. But when she embraces the rose, she can enjoy the blooms that were meant to grace the sunny garden.
What a brilliant example! We all have different children. Some are creative with words, others curious to the point of breaking things to discover how they work. Some are strong and passionate, others quiet and easily yield. And while each trait has it's strength and weakness associated with it, the Lord has fashioned these souls with specific roles and futures in mind.
How wonderful to excitedly embrace the flower God has made and delivered to our door. To tend and care for these little ones and be the sun or shade, by our continual love and enjoyment of them, that causes them to thrive.
That is not to say that plants do not need training, pruning or soil ammendment. Just that God is creative and has made more than just one personality to be enjoyed.
And what a beautiful arrangement is made when we have the contrast and beauty that comes from variety in our homes and in our churches.